Empathy !

                                                         With all the celebrations for mother's day over , spare a thought for the children in families who mainly by their own hand have distanced themselves from being involved . It could be they've been jealous over something or someone  , you know the way sibling rivalry works ? And in other cases its not quite that simple , you may have step children , you may have lone parents , whose children are neither theirs , or that they just feel alone when their real parent is not present for whatever reason .. These are some of the situations that have arisen with the evolution of family .
                                                         What do you do when all there is in your life is the hope for redemption , the hope that some young girl or boy will see that the road they have chosen is the wrong one ? Do you ignore their pain and indifference and cast them out to the wolves of this world ? Or do you try and repair them ? Because basically that's exactly what has happened to them , they've become broken , they have lost faith in themselves , and now that faith has been lost in their parents too . They are the outcasts of family life , and as I said earlier , made even more difficult because they are the one's who instigated everything by their not being willing to listen and do what was asked of them .
                                                         What would you do ? How would you react ? If its your own child through blood , if like me , you would fight , you would scream , you would do everything necessary to get that child back on board . It wouldn't really matter if they disliked you for it , all children dislike their parents at some time or another . Why ? Now that's very simple , they think they know everything , they think they know better than you . They will lie , they will deceive , they will hurt you , they will rob from your purse , and deny everything , even if there are only two people in the house . That ghost has taken shape again I used to say . So don't for one minute think that these things are only happening to you , children are wise , they are  cunning , but at the end of the day they are just children . Children that need you to fight for them , even if not your own blood . When you take on board someone who has children , you take on board the whole package .
                                                         There will always come a time when some child who has been particularly nasty , comes to their senses . They suddenly , as if by magic realise that life doesn't have to be about arguments and ego's . They look around and see that their family means much more to them than they realised . Sometimes for some people its just too late , they have  wreaked havoc once too often . But just imagine if that one time you ignore them for all their previous wrongdoings , they actually wanted to make amends and you missed out on it . How would that make you feel ? I have always been of the opinion , that with a wife and three children that I need ALL five of us to be right . And I won't stop until ALL five of us are right , even if it means going to my grave not having fulfilled my promise to myself . But what I will know , is that none of my children can ever turn around and say I didn't try hard enough !
                                                        People must look at themselves , and the things that have gone before , and in what they experienced in an earlier life , and then decide if everything is hopeless . There but for the grace of someone else go I !