Winning & Not Coming 1st !
Why do we torture ourselves with feelings of inadequacy and underachievement ? Throughout our lives if you're a half decent human being , no matter what task or problems you are given you face them fully and give them your best shot .
Then there's the flip side to that , knowing you have given your all you still feel inadequate because of possible parental pressure , or your own personal peer pressure . These are the problems we all face day by day , we are so unforgiving of ourselves that we actually drive ourselves into a corner that sometimes is impossible to get out of .
As human beings we should be more patient and tolerant of our limitations , though in saying that , you're admitting that failure is a definite possibility . Failure is always a definite possibility , so much so that its about time we accepted our limitations and just got on with our lives . And if your peers don't like it , well you know what to tell them . You tell them you have reached a point in your life where its acceptable to fail , its acceptable to be 2nd, or even 3rd best , and more importantly you're happy about it .
This is your life , this is your time , and the inference by outsiders or even parents that they should have control in some way can be very crippling . You see some people know nothing more and love nothing more than control ! You do something wrong and they're quick to point out that they wouldn't have done it the same way , and if you did it my way ............well you get the message .
Sometimes its hard to just be you , its hard just to be left alone to your own devices . And the lovely liberating thing about your own devices is just that , they are yours and yours alone . So the next time you miss out on being the greatest arranger of things , just think twice before the feelings of inadequacy appear , and say to yourself , this is my life , and it doesn't require a 1st place to be happy !
Then there's the flip side to that , knowing you have given your all you still feel inadequate because of possible parental pressure , or your own personal peer pressure . These are the problems we all face day by day , we are so unforgiving of ourselves that we actually drive ourselves into a corner that sometimes is impossible to get out of .
As human beings we should be more patient and tolerant of our limitations , though in saying that , you're admitting that failure is a definite possibility . Failure is always a definite possibility , so much so that its about time we accepted our limitations and just got on with our lives . And if your peers don't like it , well you know what to tell them . You tell them you have reached a point in your life where its acceptable to fail , its acceptable to be 2nd, or even 3rd best , and more importantly you're happy about it .
This is your life , this is your time , and the inference by outsiders or even parents that they should have control in some way can be very crippling . You see some people know nothing more and love nothing more than control ! You do something wrong and they're quick to point out that they wouldn't have done it the same way , and if you did it my way ............well you get the message .
Sometimes its hard to just be you , its hard just to be left alone to your own devices . And the lovely liberating thing about your own devices is just that , they are yours and yours alone . So the next time you miss out on being the greatest arranger of things , just think twice before the feelings of inadequacy appear , and say to yourself , this is my life , and it doesn't require a 1st place to be happy !
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