How Disappointing Parenthood Can Be !
As parents we all endure and support the ups and downs of rearing good children if we're lucky . This includes those baby times when they need nurturing and understanding . This also includes the times when they reach the start of their teens and the transformation that is the start of a whole new world for them , and mostly for you . You will guide them as you have done previously , but this time this guidance will become an obstacle in their development . Not because its not important , but simply because your teenagers feel they don't need it anymore . They are grown they feel , they suddenly realize they have an opinion and exert it they certainly do . This is a time for the brave , this is not a time for shirking or ignoring their not wanting help or assistance from you . These can be difficult times !
Now the vast majority will come through that tunnel we call growing up in a safe and mature way . They will have had their ups as well as their downs , and you will have been there to help them through all those difficult times .But what happens when that tunnel is just a little too long for some ? What happens when getting through it seems an impossible task ? What happens when your child becomes someone that you no longer recognize ? Do you keep supporting bad behaviour , or do you throw them to the lions ?
I personally have heard of someone who through no fault of their own supported and guided her son to no avail . He became angry , he became abusive and he became violent . The authorities didn't help , as all they kept saying was he's underage and therefore is basically untouchable . What makes this worse is that the children also know they are untouchable .
With a heavy heart , and a very decisive plan , she had reached the end of her tether . She decided for her own safety , and sanity , she would leave the household and move to England . She did this unknowns to everybody and has been there for the last three years . She is safe , her son still tries to contact her , but the pain , misery and distress caused by him will probably never leave her .
In my opinion for what its worth , I truly believe she done the right thing . If the authorities are tying your hands in every shape and form , you must reach a stage when deliverence is something you need . You demand help , but no help is given . You scream for understanding , but none ever comes . You just hope that maybe a little empathy will help others understand the reason for your very emotive decisions .
And before anyone judges , or thinks little of this lady , if they could just take a walk in her shoes and see the suffering and anguish caused by a teenager on his mother , well I feel their opinion would most definitely change . This woman has basically abandoned her child , not because she wanted to , but because there was no help given when she needed it most . This is just one of the heartbreaking stories out there , and as we settle into our neat and tidy little lives give a thought to those parents who may not have gotten it right , who unwittingly smothered their children with love and attention , and never got any back in return . How disappointing parenthood can be !
Now the vast majority will come through that tunnel we call growing up in a safe and mature way . They will have had their ups as well as their downs , and you will have been there to help them through all those difficult times .But what happens when that tunnel is just a little too long for some ? What happens when getting through it seems an impossible task ? What happens when your child becomes someone that you no longer recognize ? Do you keep supporting bad behaviour , or do you throw them to the lions ?
I personally have heard of someone who through no fault of their own supported and guided her son to no avail . He became angry , he became abusive and he became violent . The authorities didn't help , as all they kept saying was he's underage and therefore is basically untouchable . What makes this worse is that the children also know they are untouchable .
With a heavy heart , and a very decisive plan , she had reached the end of her tether . She decided for her own safety , and sanity , she would leave the household and move to England . She did this unknowns to everybody and has been there for the last three years . She is safe , her son still tries to contact her , but the pain , misery and distress caused by him will probably never leave her .
In my opinion for what its worth , I truly believe she done the right thing . If the authorities are tying your hands in every shape and form , you must reach a stage when deliverence is something you need . You demand help , but no help is given . You scream for understanding , but none ever comes . You just hope that maybe a little empathy will help others understand the reason for your very emotive decisions .
And before anyone judges , or thinks little of this lady , if they could just take a walk in her shoes and see the suffering and anguish caused by a teenager on his mother , well I feel their opinion would most definitely change . This woman has basically abandoned her child , not because she wanted to , but because there was no help given when she needed it most . This is just one of the heartbreaking stories out there , and as we settle into our neat and tidy little lives give a thought to those parents who may not have gotten it right , who unwittingly smothered their children with love and attention , and never got any back in return . How disappointing parenthood can be !
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