Oh No Not Me ! Never Me !

Cat's in the Cradle !

                                                                             When is it the right time to start appreciating the things that have shaped our lives ? When is the right time to be able to speak and emotionalize about people who have impressed us , or who were simply there for us when no one else seemed in any way interested about how we might possibly develop ? We all know for instance how maybe a sister or brother , showed that interest in us that could have been sadly lacking from someone else we might always have expected to be our greatest protector and supporter . Alas in a lot of cases we were left to pursue a lot of the things that could have been our greatest achievement as a child or a teenager , alone and without the support one might expect from a parent or elder sibling .
                                                                            I know it's easy to explain away the reasons for that lack of support . For Example , someone is working and therefore hasn't really got the time . The person or people in question have absolutely no understanding or knowledge of who you are trying to be . What you are trying to achieve , or put simply why you might be doing something like this in the first place . I can only imagine or deduce from my memories , because of the age I am now , and being able to look back because I maybe have too much time on my hands , that having a parent who had lets say , other things to do , was as acceptable back then , as I feel how unacceptable it is now . The Harry Chapin song " Cat's in the Cradle " kinda springs to mind .
                                                                           So when I see things developing in that same kinda manner , I feel it necessary to say something about it . As a parent , and with all of the goodwill in the world , it will never be enough for us just to make that expected effort so as to convince children of our honest and concerned intentions .There has to be total commitment to the development of the happy side of parenting . The side of parenting that requires no rules , no deadlines , no restrictions , and most importantly no punishment . Parents tend to assume that because children are exactly that , Children , that they can be easily persuaded when it comes to your involvement with them , or as may be the case your Lack of involvement with them . Oh from experience , they are a lot more clever than people give them credit for . And yes they hold grudges , and yes they do blame parents when something is as they see it quite easily postponed , and in a lot of cases , without an honest or true explanation .
                                                                        If there is anything in this piece that feels a little too familiar to you

. I advise you to buy , download or steal a copy of Harry Chapin's Cat's in the Cradle . Listen to it . Live it . And when you have understood all there is to understand , promise yourself , Oh no not me . Never me !