Trying To Repair The Impossible !

                         Sometimes family remind you of who you actually are , and not who you would like to be . And unfortunately if you are a one of those people who would rather not be who you actually are , it is going to be a long long time for you trying to change any of that .
                                                                        In every family you have a selection of multiple and quite opposite personalities . And just because you are related doesn't mean that you have anything in common . The age difference can be a cause for this to happen , but most of the time its simply down to simple things like people not having time for one another .
                                                                       In that case there is no real reason for anyone to try and change that dynamic . You can if you want to , but most of the time your efforts will be met with the same old response eventually . I have resigned myself to the fact that in most families there is too much history and in some cases bullying to overcome . And as we all know some of the best bullies can be your sisters , brothers , fathers and even mothers . So trying to wipe out something that may have happened many many years ago , is always going to be a near impossible task .
                                                                      Of course there will always be families like the Walton's , or maybe even the Partridge family ( where am I pulling these names from ? ) , to give us all a sharp reminder of how things within families should be , or how You would like them to be

. But from experience , and from talking to friends past and present , the majority of families always have a story , and sometimes a history that is simply best forgotten . Its only when someone , or something reminds you of that forgotten history that things tend to go tits up . I am generalising now , so don't be trying to suss out if I am talking about your family or your history , because I am not . Its what people expect of themselves and their siblings that is really the crux of the problem .
                                                                     We quite naturally look at one another in a totally different vein , than if you were examining the behaviour of a friend . We look at each other with so much expectation , that before you even start , you are quite rightly doomed to failure . Its not rocket science , it simply is . And don't think for one minute if you are trying to dissect your family relationships , that you are an exception to the rule . Wake up ! You are the Rule !
                                                                    We all go around trying to work out why certain things in our lives don't work the way we want them to . And in a lot of cases we blame ourselves on what is basically a trait of nature . Yes it is great to be ecstatically happy with everything that surrounds you , but it is also normal to be unhappy too . Its the fact that it is less enjoyable that puts us all in a quandary . We would like to be happy with each other all of the time . But do you honestly think that sort of scenario is feasible ? No , we know each other too well to put that sort of pressure on ourselves , but it still doesn't stop us from trying to change it .
                                                                    So the message in this little piece , And As Always , In My Opinion , is quite simple . That , that you have no power over to change , should be left well enough alone . In some cases trying to repair something that's already broken , will always turn out to be impossible .