Teaching Understanding and NOT Denial !

                                                                            It's been a while hasn't it ? And the reason for that has probably got a lot to do with where I am at the moment both physically and mentally . It seems that things spring to the surface when some sort of emotional disturbance might have caught my attention . And to be honest I can probably say without any hesitation that this is certainly one of those times . Let me simply  explain how this piece came about . Its in direct response to a video my son posted on line about gender confusion .
                                                                           Whenever a family is blessed by whatever deity , in having a child who for whatever reason doesn't tick all of the expected boxes , gender wise , it can be a rather difficult time for those parents . More importantly it's even more difficult for the child in question who happens to be struggling with whatever identity crisis life has thrown at them .
                                                                           As the parent of a child who is homosexual , I am writing this piece from experience rather than from a position of it being just an opinion . So having said that , how do we address a similar situation if it happens to occur in your own life .Even writing about this tends to give the impression that its a disease we are talking about and not just a difference in sexual outlook and behaviour . You see there lies the problem . Certain people in our society can't handle difference . Everything has to be as written in books , be they religious or otherwise . Gender uncertainty  is not a choice .Gender uncertainty is , from experience a Fuc.... Nightmare . Not for me I need add , or my wife , but for the person who is living with this uncertainty every day until when they are old enough to finally know exactly who they are .
                                                                          My experiences in this , have made my opinions
 with regard to the same , hopefully less tight , less limited and again hopefully more full of understanding . Negative thoughts and negative opinions do not do your child any favours . Negative teachings in school can also hamper their individual development . And because everything heterosexual is expected by teachers and of course families as well , being a little different , gender wise , can hopefully alter your perception when it comes to the understanding and teaching of that child .
                                                                         I have always been passionate about acceptance for anybody who just happens to be different in any way . It's always been who I am . And if God himself told me to change my attitude to people who were different only because they were born that way , I think you know what my reaction to him would be .

                                                                        In an ideal world there would be so much understanding and acceptance of anything different . But this is very far from being an ideal world . We have people killing each other because of colour , creed , gender difference , dress choice , you name it , and there is always someone who dislikes somebody else because of their freedom of expression . And that's the Important part , your freedom of expression .
                                                                       So when you are thinking of denying somebody that freedom of expression , Please Please think twice . They need understanding and not Denial !